Consequences of Incest and Sexual Abuse of Children
Child abuse presents a systemic imbalance in the law of the hierarchy and the law of equilibrium (adult gives / child receives) according to Bert Hellinger.
The child, behind the dynamics of incest, is delivered as an object of compensation for misconduct and / or entanglement among adult parents. Generally in these dynamics, both parents are involved. It is not a rule, but experience shows us what Bert tells us, that there is an active abuser and in the background, the passive ’eminence’ (the mother or caretaker).
What are the steps that cause healing in these cases?
- Help the abused victim get out of their infantile frailty, and release their guilt, facing their pain.
- To help him regain his dignity and strength, honoring his destiny and all those involved.
- Recognize the ‘pleasure in the innocence of childlike curiosity’ as a moment of development, although anticipated.
- Recognize and release the ‘negative bond’ between the child and the abuser (victim-perpetuated). Indignation and recrimination increase the negative bond and guilt, recreating the pain and imbalance!
- Release the pain that perpetuates us perpetuated !! At that moment, the abuser is given a place in the victim’s compassion! And the victim gets rid of the negative bond!
This revolutionary teaching that Bert Hellinger makes us recognize makes all the difference!
By reaching this step, all involved are relieved, for the intricate dissolves. The relaxation of the tension of the bodies, signify that the ‘flow of Life’ has been reinstalled.
In the worked dynamics appear different tangles of the abusers: madness, mental deficiency, compensation for the high incidence of death in the system.
In all cases, the peace of those involved and the restoration of the flow of Life were only possible, undoing the negative bond and honoring the destiny of all those involved. Indignation gives way to compassion in our hearts!
Graciela Rozenthal